I won't generalize and say that her subspace is deeper with orgasm, as it often isn't. Orgasm need not be part of the experience, though it sometimes can be, depending on how she's feeling that particular day, how much time we have, and how deep she wants to go. My ace babygirl/masochist/girlfriend can hit subspace relatively easily (or, at least, she does with me), as I know what works for her. As a Dom, I often experience "Domspace", but it's not quite the same sort of "rush" that subspace can bring. Note that "subspace" is only one side of the equation. It got me wondering, has anyone ever tried this kind of thing in an asexual relationship here? It seems like quite a good option to explore as a substitute, for want of a better term, for the kind of connection a lot of people describe sex as being.ĭoes anyone here have any experience of that kind of psychological, non-sexual subspace with partners?īDSM play often brings the Top and bottom into a separate "headspace" (see "Physical aspects" at this link).
Sort of extreme trust exercises basically, entwined with great affection. Things like, being partially restrained whilst being touched or massaged, basically being put in a situation where you have no choice but to receive physical affection (pre-consented of course). The state of complete trust and slight dissociation that can be triggered by certain situations, mostly involving focusing entirely on one person and surrendering control for a little while. One of the things I've become fascinated by is the idea of psychological subspace. I've been reading around a lot about alternate intimacy experiences that bring a similar connection sexual people describe sex as bringing, but don't involve sexual touching.
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